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Pros and cons of being an only child

 

Advantages Disadvantages Comments
Parents’ love, attention, care
to get all parents’ love and attention to enjoy having the full attention of one’s parents to be the centre of attention to have no sibling to compete for parents' attention to dote on (to be doted on) to pamper to indulge to be praised     to get tired of excessive attention and care to lavish their love, care on their only child   too much attention - too much pressure on the child, too much control over-protection (to be over-protected) to keep a strict eye on the child to keep the child out of any danger to find it difficult to cope with real life problems to lack self-confidence to go out in the world and get things done for oneself to become reluctant to take responsibility   to live up to one’s parents expectations to rest (focus) all their expectations (hopes, dreams, ambitions) on the child to expect too much from the child to push the child to be number one   to spoil the child to be over-indulged to get used to having everything done, managed, taken care of - by his parents to grow up to be selfish, self-centred, bossy, self-conceited to put one’s own needs, interests, wants first to take for granted that one’s … will always come first to lack the ability to empathize and sympathize with others Much depends on the parent-child relationships, on the way parents bring up their child.   Love and praise can either spoil a child or give him self-confidence. Self-confidence makes an achiever, helps succeed in life.   All young children are selfish and possessive about their toys and playthings.   Children with siblings can also turn out to be spoilt (selfish, bossy, reluctant, etc.). It depends on their position in the family and parents’ treatment.   Only children can grow up into loving adults, sympathetic people if parents instill these feature in them.
Material support
to be better provided for to have only one child to spend money on to have more and better things: toys, clothes, etc. don’t have to share … with other siblings to be less willing to share with other people to have no opportunity to learn to share One does not need a sibling to know how to share and care.   Only children can be taught how to share things with friends and parents.
Having no siblings
to enjoy privacy to have no sibling to poke his nose into one’s affairs, to bother   no jealousy and rivalry no feelings of being treated differently sibling relationships can be more competitive than supportive     to feel lonely (bored) without a companion of the same generation in the family to have no one to play with to miss the fun of growing up with a brother or sister to have no one to share experience, to confide secrets to there’s no one else to share responsibilities   to tend to be maladjusted to be shy, unsociable to be reluctant to mix with people to have problems with socializing to find it difficult to make friends, to deal with other people to lack communication experience can’t stand up for oneself, prove one’s point of view to find it difficult to share thoughts and feelings with others to face problems in situations which require teamwork not to learn to live together with somebody else of one’s generation Being only doesn’t mean being lonely. Many people with sibs grow up lonely and don’t keep contact with each other. Some siblings don’t get along with each other. You may have more responsibilities as an elder sibling.   Onlies can have close friends and learn how to deal with people.   They can be engaged in different activities where they will get to socialize and make friends.  
Independence
to benefit from being on one’s own a lot of time to be good at being by oneself to grow to be self-sufficient and self-reliant to have few people to count on to have to work out things for oneself to learn to do things on one’s own, to solve problem oneself to be able to engage oneself without being too dependent on playmates   Some only children grow up to be rather dependent on their parents.   Growing up to be independent or dependant is directly connected with the freedom and boundaries set by parents.
Development and education
to be more resourceful in keeping oneself entertained and occupied to have rich imagination to be good at creative activities (the ones that can be done without a companion) to fill the time alone to invent one’s own dream world   to tend to mature faster because one is always surrounded by adults to follow their example   to have a chance for better education to have all the parents’ financial resources to get necessary educational resources, extra lessons, etc.   to over-identify oneself with an adult world to feel more comfortable with adults than peers     Some onlies remain infantile because of parents’ indulging attitude.  
Looking after aging parents
  to be totally responsible for your aging parents; no siblings to rely on Not everyone's siblings are really helpful.

 



Food for thought:

  1. Are you happy being the only child in your family?
  2. Do you wish you were the only child? (The grass always seems greener on the other side).
  3. What are the only child stereotypes? How true are they?(indulged, spoilt, selfish, lonely, unsociable)
  4. Which factors influence the way each child turns out to be?
  5. Does being only always imply being lonely? Does it have any advantages? How can a child benefit from being much time on his own?
  6. Are siblings our best companions? What for do we need them? Can we always count and rely on them? Can anything make up for the lack of siblings?
  7. What situation can make an only child unsociable and reluctant to socialize with his peers?
  8. Do children always need all the attention and care their parents lavish on them?
  9. Which way can parents’ love, attention and care affect children? In which case does an only child grow up to be selfish, arrogant, doing everything his own way?
  10. Are only children more possessive than non-onlies?
  11. Do you agree that a loved child is sure to grow into a loving adult?
  12. Are only children always over-praised, over-estimated? Are they more ambitious and self-confident? Are they more likely to be achievers? What can favour their conquering attitude? What opportunities do they have?
  13. What sort of upbringing makes a child dependent or independent?

 

 


Date: 2015-12-24; view: 1336


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