Appendix A

Possible Perceptions Flowing out of Various Center

These are alternative ways you may tend to perceive other areas of your lif

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If your center is Spouse...

SPOUSE: The main source of need satisfaction.

FAMILY: Good in its place. Less important. A common project.

MONEY: Necessary to properly take care of spouse.

WORK: Necessary to earn money to care for spouse.

POSSESSIONS: Means to bless, impress, or manipulate.

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If your center is Family...

SPOUSE: Part of the family.

FAMILY: The highest priority.

MONEY: Family economic support.

WORK: A means to an end.

POSSESSIONS: Family comfort and opportunities.

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If your center is Money...

SPOUSE: Asset or liability in acquiring money.

FAMILY: Economic drain.

MONEY: Source of security and fulfillment.

WORK: Necessary to the acquisition of money.

POSSESSIONS: Evidence of economic success.

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If your center is Work...

SPOUSE: Help or hindrance in work.

FAMILY: Help or interruption to work. People to instruct in work ethic.

MONEY: Of secondary importance. Evidence of hard work.

WORK: Main source of fulfillment and satisfaction. Highest ethic.

POSSESSIONS: Tools to increase work effectiveness. Fruits, badge of work.

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If your center is Possessions...

SPOUSE: Main possession. Assistant in acquiring possessions.

FAMILY: Possession to use, exploit, dominate, smother, control. Showcase.

MONEY: Key to increasing possessions. Another possession to control.

WORK: Opportunity to possess status, authority, recognition.

POSSESSIONS: Status symbols.

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If your center is Pleasure...

SPOUSE: Companion in fun and pleasure or obstacle to it.

FAMILY: Vehicle or interference.

MONEY: Means to increase opportunities for pleasure.

THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE Brought to you by FlyHeart WORK: Means to an end. "Fun" work OK.

POSSESSIONS: Objects of fun. Means to more fun.

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If your center is A Friend or Friends...

SPOUSE: Possible friend or possible competitor. Social status symbol.

FAMILY: Friends or obstacle to developing friendships.

MONEY: Source of economic and social good.

WORK: Social opportunity.

POSSESSIONS: Means of buying friendship. Means of entertaining or providing social pleasure.

These are alternative ways you may tend you perceive other areas of your life

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If your center is Spouse...

PLEASURE: Mutual, unifying activity or unimportant.

FRIENDS: Spouse is best or only friend. Only friends are "our" friends.

ENEMIES: Spouse is my defender, or common enemy provides source of marriage definition.

CHURCH: Activity to enjoy together. Subordinate to relationship.

SELF: Self-worth is spouse based. Highly vulnerable to spouse attitudes and behaviors.

PRINCIPLES: ideas which create and maintain relationship with spouse.

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If your center is Family...

PLEASURE: Family activities or relatively unimportant.

FRIENDS: Friends of the family, or competition. Threat to strong family life.

ENEMIES: Defined by family. Source of family strength and unity. Possible threat to family strength.

CHURCH: Source of help.

SELF: Vital part of but subordinate to family. Subordinate to family.

PRINCIPLES: Rules which keep family unified and strong.

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If your center is Money...

PLEASURE: Economic drain or evidence of economic stress.

FRIENDS: Chosen because of economic status or influence.

ENEMIES: Economic competitors. Threat to economic security.

CHURCH: Tax write-off. Hand in your pocket.

SELF: Self-worth is determined by net worth.

PRINCIPLES: Ways that work in making and managing money.

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If your center is Work...

PLEASURE: Waste of time. Interferes with work.

FRIENDS: Developed from work setting or shared interest. Basically unnecessary.

ENEMIES: Obstacles to work productivity.

CHURCH: Important to corporate image. Imposition on your time. Opportunity to network in

profession.

SELF: Defined by job role.

PRINCIPLES: Ideas that make you successful in your work. Need to adapt to work conditions.

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If your center is Possessions...

PLEASURE: Buying, shopping, joining clubs.

FRIENDS: Personal objects. Usable.

ENEMIES: Takers, thieves. Others with more possessions or recognition.

THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE Brought to you by FlyHeart CHURCH: "My" church, a status symbol. Source of unfair criticism or good things in life.

SELF: Defined by the things I own. Defined by social status, recognition.

PRINCIPLES: concepts which enable you to acquire and enhance possessions.

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If your center is Pleasure...

PLEASURE: Supreme end in life.

FRIENDS: Companions in fun.

ENEMIES: Take life too seriously. Guilt trippers, destroyers.

CHURCH: Inconvenient, obstacle to recreation. Guilt trip.

SELF: Instrument for pleasure.

PRINCIPLES: Natural drives and instincts which need to be satisfied.

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If your center is Friends...

PLEASURE: Enjoyed always with friends. Primarily social events.

FRIENDS: Critical to personal happiness. Belonging, acceptance, popularily is crucial.

ENEMIES: Outside the social circle. Common enemies provide unity or definition for friendship.

CHURCH: Place for social gathering.

SELF: Socially defined. Afraid of embarrassment or rejection.

PRINCIPLES: Basic laws which enable you to get along with others.

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This is the way you may tend to perceive other areas of your life.

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If your center is Enemies...

FRIEND OR PLEASURE: Rest and relaxation time before the next battle.

ENEMY OR FRIENDS: Emotional supporters and sympathizers. Possibly defined by common

enemy.

ENEMIES: Objects of hate. Source of personal problems. Stimuli to self-protection and

self-justification.

CHURCH: Source of self-justification.

SELF: Victimized. Immobilized by enemy.

PRINCIPLES: Justification for labeling enemies. Source of your enemy's wrongness.

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If your center is Church...

FRIEND OR PLEASURE: "Innocent" pleasures as an opportunity to gather with other church

members. Others as sinful or time wasters, to be self-righteously denied.

ENEMY OR FRIENDS: Other members of the church.

ENEMIES: Nonbelievers; those who disagree with church teachings or whose lives are in blatant

opposition to them.

CHURCH: Highest priority. Source of guidance.

SELF: Self-worth is determined by activity in the church, contributions to the church, or performance

of deeds that reflect the church ethic.

PRINCIPLES: Doctrines taught by the church. Subordinate to the church.

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If your center is Self...

FRIEND OR PLEASURE: Deserved sensate satisfactions. "My rights." "My needs.

ENEMY OR FRIENDS: Supporter, provider for "me".

ENEMIES: Source of self-definition, self-justification.

CHURCH: Vehicle to serve self-interests.

THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE Brought to you by FlyHeart SELF: Better, smarter, more right. Justified in focusing all resources on personal gratification.

PRINCIPLES: Source of justification. Those ideas that serve my best interests; can be adapted to

need.

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If your center is Principles...

FRIEND OR PLEASURE: Joy that comes from almost any activity in a focused life. True re-creation

as an important part of a balanced integrated life-style.

ENEMY OR FRIENDS: Companions in interdependent living. Confidants -- those to share with,

serve, and support.

ENEMIES: No real perceived "enemies"; just people with different paradigms and agendas to be

understood and cared about.

CHURCH: Vehicle for true principles. Opportunity for service and contribution.

SELF: One unique, talented, creative individual in the midst of many unique, talented, creative

individuals who, working independently and interdependently, can accomplish great things.

PRINCIPLES: Immutable natural laws which cannot be violated with impunity. When honored,

preserve integrity and thus lead to true growth and happiness.

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