Synergistic Communication

When you communicate synergistically, you are simply opening your mind and heart and

expressions to new possibilities, new alternatives, new options. It may seem as if you are casting aside Habit 2 (to Begin with the End in Mind); but, in fact, you're doing the opposite -- you're fulfilling it.

THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE Brought to you by FlyHeart You're not sure when you engage in synergistic communication how things will work out or what the

end will look like, but you do have an inward sense of excitement and security and adventure, believing

that it will be significantly better than it was before. And that is the end that you have in mind.

You begin with the belief that parties involved will gain more insight, and that the excitement of that

mutual learning and insight will create a momentum toward more and more insights, learning, and

growth.

Many people have not really experienced even a moderate degree of synergy in their family life or in

other interactions. They've been trained and scripted into defensive and protective communications or

into believing that life or other people can't be trusted. As a result, they are never really open to Habit 6 and to these principles.

This represents one of the great tragedies and wastes in life, because so much potential remains

untapped -- completely undeveloped and unused. Ineffective people live day after day with unused

potential. They experience synergy only in small, peripheral ways in their lives.

They may have memories of some unusual creative experiences, perhaps in athletics, where they

were involved in a real team spirit for a period of time. Or perhaps they were in an emergency

situation where people cooperated to an unusually high degree and submerged ego and pride in an

effort to save someone's life or to produce a solution to a crisis.

To many, such events may seem unusual, almost out of character with life, even miraculous. But

this is not so. These things can be produced regularly, consistently, almost daily in people's lives.

But it requires enormous personal security and openness and a spirit of adventure.

Almost all creative endeavors are somewhat unpredictable. They often seem ambiguous,

hit-or-miss, trial and error. And unless people have a high tolerance for ambiguity and get their

security from integrity to principles and inner values they find it unnerving and unpleasant to be

involved in highly creative enterprises. Their need for structure, certainty, and predictability is too

high.

Date: 2015-02-03; view: 1245