Negative Ned or Nancy

Babies seem pale compared to the “negators”. Negative Ned isn’t just negative, he distrusts anyone in power. He believes that his way is the only right way and his motto is “I told you so.” He sees the down side of every issue.

Stay positive, but realistic. Delay discussing solutions since Ned or Nancy will dismiss every solution as you bring it up. Refuse to argue with them and stick with the facts.

People pleaser

While these people are easy to like, they can be difficult personalities to deal with. They over commit themselves and their staffs because they can’t say “NO.”

Carefully limit how much you ask of them to eliminate the disappointments caused by missed deadlines. In meetings, they may tend to volunteer for way too much. Try: “You’re working on so many worthy projects….who else would like to sign up for this one?” Affirm their contributions and help them say “no.”

Non-player

These people are the most difficult personalities to deal with. They don’t reveal their true motives, and you end up in a guessing game trying to find out what makes them tick. It is vital to get them to participate in meetings, so they don’t leave with their hidden agendas and work counter to the team.

The most effective strategy is to draw them out with open-ended questions. Even if the silence between you and this unresponsive person grows chasm-like, wait it out.

Encourage people to change

When you ignore difficult people, they don’t change. But when your support positive change and refuse to indulge their behaviors; you encourage them to learn new coping skills -at least in your presence.

Five Questions to Ask Before Any Meeting

Perhaps I’m being too generous here – I’ve heard some meetings described as awful, terrible, painful, a waste of time, and other things I wouldn’t choose to put in print.

This article is written to help remove the curse from meetings. These five questions can make any meeting more effective – if you both ask and answer them before your meeting. These questions will help you as the meeting leader, facilitator or planner and also will help you as a meeting participant.

Each question has a companion question to further help you improve the results your meeting produces.

The five questions

1. What is the desired outcome of the meeting? (How will you know the meeting was successful?)

This is the first and most important question to ask before any meeting.

Too often meeting planning revolves around the topic – which doesn’t define success at all. Why would you meet if you didn’t know what you wanted to accomplish? I’m not sure why you would, but it happens thousands of times everyday.

Before you schedule or at least plan your meeting, you need to know what your desired outcome(s) are. Without these, your meeting is doomed to being less effective (and more frustrating) than it could be.

2. Who needs to be there? (And who doesn’t?)

I’m guessing some of the meetings you’ve attended that you would consider to be ineffective or boring were meetings where you didn’t see a need for being there at all. This experience should give you a clue . . . the best meetings have the right people (and only those people) in attendance.

Once you know what you want to accomplish, then (and only then) should you think about who needs to be there. Let your desired outcomes drive who you include in your meeting.

3. Is the agenda prepared? (If not now, when?)

Your desired outcome(s) are a pivotal part of your agenda and so once you have them determined you are a long way towards completing your agenda. Add the timing, order of events, and a listing of the desired outcomes, as well as the location, length, attendees, etc. and get that to people ahead of time.

4. What can I do to prepare? (How can I help others prepare?)

If you are planning this meeting, you need to think through the agenda to make sure you are prepared from a logistical standpoint. You also need to make sure the others you have invited understand the agenda, how they can contribute, and what preparation they need to do.

Beyond your planning role though, as a meeting participant you also need to consider your preparation for the content of the meeting. Think about the information or ideas that you need to bring with you. If you need input from others or need to review something, make sure you have done that as well.

5. What can I do to make this meeting succeed? (What is my responsibility?)

Once the planning is done and the agenda is published, this important question remains. Answering this question reminds you that there are many things you can do to make the meeting more effective. Those things you can do include:

being on time

Actively participating

Maintaining an open mind

Listening

Making sure everyone is contributing

Asking questions

I could go on, but you get the idea. It doesn’t matter what your stated role is for the meeting, hopefully you are there because you have something to contribute. It is your responsibility to offer that contribution.

When everyone attending a meeting thinks about their responsibility – and acts on it, you’ll be amazed at the results.

Date: 2016-01-14; view: 872