You seem very happy with Miles.

It’s been over two years. We’ve just moved house and we’re in the process of making it our own. (Laughs softly) I’ve infused a little more colour into the dynamic, Miles is very chic and likes simple browns, blacks and whites.

Are you thinking about marriage?

Marriage is certainly something we talk about. I’m thrilled now that we can, if and when we decide we want to, but I don’t think it’s something both of us are necessarily hurtling towards. I’ve never been happier. I’ve never felt so integrated and in place with anyone else. That’s what matters to me and that’s what matters to Miles.

Would you like to marry?

I believe in the right to it, but personally I feel a union is something that transcends a declaration or institution. Maybe at some point I will want to bring marriage into the mix and Miles will agree. We certainly have conversations about it. The idea of planning a wedding – having a party and celebrating how much I love this man with the people I love – is exciting.

Do you want children?

I definitely want children. Miles wants children too.

How would you do it?

It’s something I’ve given a lot of thought and consideration to. Personally, adoption is the strongest choice. It’s a complicated issue and decision to make, I think. It requires a fair amount of planning and examination, so I’m in the middle of that now.

How has filming Star Trek been?

It’s certainly different now Leonard [Nimoy, the original ‘Spock’, who died, aged 83, in February] is not with us any longer. I feel a sense of connection to him which is deeper than when he was alive, and a sense of responsibility to honour him, his legacy and role. Leonard and I were very, very close. He really left the world as peacefully and loved as anyone I have ever known.

How useful has therapy been?

I realise it isn’t designed for everyone, but personally it feels a very valuable place to channel my resources of time, money and energy. Psychologically and emotionally I have felt more self-acceptance, love and compassion for myself when I have been in therapy than when I’m not, and more understanding of other people in any kind of relationship with me. I took responsibility for things like my father’s death when I was seven. I think any child in the context of such profound trauma doesn’t have the capacity to realise they were not somehow complicit in the trauma. You don’t have any frame of reference for the magnitude of that, the absolutely explosive nature of an event like that at such an unformed age. In terms of relationships I needed to understand why under certain circumstances I was looking for something more than someone else was willing to give me and why under other circumstances why I wasn’t able to give someone as much as they need. Going back to the origins of those behaviors allowed me to get to the point where I was able to be on the same footing as somebody else.

How have you found fame?

I think I deal with it pretty well. I know what comes along with the exposure of being a celebrity. I don’t begrudge or resent it. I have boundaries that are really clear. I walk my dog. I take the train. There are things I can do that make myself less available as I walk through the city. I listen to music, wear sunglasses on the train. I’ve learned how to manage the city in a way that doesn’t necessitate me getting into a fucking SUV every time I walk out my front door.

Why does Hollywood still have such a ‘gay’ problem? Why are so few big-name actors out?

One journalist misquoted me saying that one day there could be a gay James Bond. That was not the fucking point I was making. The point I was making was there could be a gay actor playing James Bond, who will never be gay. A gay actor can play James Bond as a straight character. Maybe the only way to really change it is to just fucking do it and fucking stop talking about it. That’s the effort I’m making when I make a film like Agent 47, or an action film, or do something not about being gay, or playing a character that is not gay. I’m working in a more diverse and more consistent way than I did before I came out.

Date: 2016-01-03; view: 1049